Finding Peace in the Rhythm of My Needles
By Kelly C
In 2024, my life changed in ways that I could never have imagined. My younger brother died suddenly at just 48, and only eight weeks after his funeral, I lost my dad. Losing two of the most important men in my life literally shook the ground I walk on.
Grief is something we will all experience at some point in our lives, and yet, I still find it so difficult to put into words. I have learned that grief is not something we simply get over. We learn to live alongside it. My loss has become a part of who I am now. I have a new identity that I never expected. Some days are easier than others.
As a counsellor, I know the importance of self-care. I often encourage others to find something that brings comfort, calm and a sense of connection. For me that something has been knitting.
My Nanny Airlie taught me to knit when I was five years old. I can still remember sitting with her and watching her turn a ball of wool into something useful and beautiful. Such precious memories I have, of her patience and care. A reminder that the people we love, continue to be a part of our lives, even after they are no longer with us.
Knitting has always been a part of my life. The gentle rhythm of the needles soothes me and helps to quieten my mind. Though it does not take away the sadness, it does offer some peace and comfort when I need it.
Every last Sunday of the month, a wonderful group of fellow knitters meet at my house. We chat, drink tea and eat cake. Oh, and of course, we knit! We proudly call ourselves the ‘Needle Knockers!’ Though it is never just about the knitting. It is about laughter, support and making time for ourselves.
Self-care does not have to be complicated or expensive. Sometimes it is found in the simple moments, like hobbies, that bring us joy, slow us down and offer us a quiet space to just be.
For me it was one day at a time, one stitch at a time.
What is your version of knitting? What helps you slow down, reconnect with yourself or simply take a break from a busy life. Whatever it is, I hope you make time for it. It is often in those quiet moments, that we get to hear what we truly need. You may well be surprised by the difference it can make.